Class 23: Let God Make You Beautiful from the Inside Out (Part 3)

Class Notes

Allow me to begin with a word from Joyce Meyer: “What’s in our hearts and minds will come out of our mouths. If our soul (mind, will and emotions) is full of negative things, we’ll find those things coming our way. On the other hand, when we hear, read, think and talk about God, the Truth and more positive things, we’ll find that those good things will come our way. The choice is ours! ”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:


What are some of the things that make us ugly?

  1. An Uncontrollable Tongue. Now, my dad, Daniel Whyte, Jr., was the most loving man that I have ever met, but I can still hear him, hollering from the back room, from time to time, to my mother when they were fussing back and forth about something, “Shirley, your mouth is going to get your behind in trouble.” Oh! How many people have allowed their uncontrollable tongues to get them in trouble. The Bible speaks about this in the book of James:

“And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell…But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” —James 3: 5 & 8

Oh! How terrible is a lying tongue. Oh! How terrible is a bad attitude and spirit. Oh! How terrible is an uncontrollable tongue.

Sweethearts, choose to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth at all times. Determine to have a cheerful and joyful spirit at all times and in all circumstances. And choose by the grace of God to control your tongue in every situation. If you do so, you will be beautiful from the inside out.


Now, please follow along as we begin our study:

God made all people beautiful and good in His sight. However, sin and the consequences of sin make our lives ugly on the inside and on the outside. How can we avoid some of the things that make us ugly? Let’s look at an uncontrollable tongue.

  1. An uncontrollable tongue has the power to do great harm.

James 3: 5 & 8 says, “And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell…But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.”

The tongue is a powerful member of the body. While it has the power to do a great deal of good, it also has the power to do great harm to one’s self and to other people. What comes out of your mouth can be helpful and beneficial to whomever is on the receiving end. Or it can be damaging and painful. James describes the tongue as having the power to set things on fire. Fire burns. Fire damages. Fire destroys. Once a fire is started, it can take a long time to bring it under control. In order to control a fire, we must bring it under subjection. The same thing goes for the tongue. Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” God has given us the tools to control what we say, how we say it, and when we say it so as to avoid doing harm to others. We kill or give life by the words we choose to use.

  1. An uncontrollable tongue has consequences.

Proverbs 21:23 says, “Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.”

How we use our words has more of an impact on our lives than anything else we could possibly do. This verse tells us that if we watch our mouths and control our tongues, we will keep ourselves out of trouble. On the other hand, if we don’t control the words that come out of our mouths, we will run into many troubles physically, spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. Stop and ask yourself, how are your words working for you or against you? When you speak, do you gain positive results and see good outcomes? Or do you see negativity and problems coming your direction? When you are spoken to, do you respond in a Christ-like, humble, kind manner no matter who is speaking or what they say? Or do you respond in an angry, proud, I’m right you’re wrong way? What you say with your mouth is what will come back to you in life. Truly, you will reap what you sow.

  1. An uncontrollable tongue reveals an evil, wicked heart.

Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.”

What comes out of our mouths is a result of what is deeply in our hearts. Words don’t just form in thin air. They start in the heart. What we think about is what will come out of our lives. Have you ever been around a person who seems nice and quiet on the outside, but once you start asking them even the slightest question or start talking to them just a little, they quickly get anxious and irritated? That didn’t just happen at that very moment because of you. It is a result of what is in that person’s heart all along. Have you ever heard of a “cold, calculated, out of the blue murder”, something that causes someone to say, “I didn’t see it coming”? That’s because it didn’t happen on the spur of the moment or as a reaction to an event; that is what was in that person’s heart for a long time. These examples are a bit deep for our context of study, but you understand the point. Words are the same way. We say what is in our heart and what is in our heart eventually comes out. As we think, so we are.

Someone once said “we need to keep a tight rein on our mouths.” Before the next time you speak, ask yourself if the words you are about to utter will bring death or life, uplift or destroy.

In our next class, we will begin a new study, “LET GOD CONTROL YOU”.

Karen Ehman said: “If a person is willing to listen to gossip they are also willing to spread it.”


Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.