Class 39: “On Getting Your Doctorate Degree Before Marriage” (Part 2)

Today, we are continuing the study titled, ON GETTING YOUR DOCTORATE DEGREE BEFORE MARRIAGE.

Allow me to begin with a quote from Khaled Hosseini. He said, “Marriage can wait, education cannot.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:


Here are some of the benefits for you if you follow this suggestion:

1. You can concentrate on and focus on your studies without distraction. (By the way, if possible, I would encourage you to not even work a job while in college.)

2. If you are pursuing a Doctorate Degree in a certain field, you will be running with bright and wise people — those who are going in the same direction as you are. God may very well have you to meet someone special in that group. Even if you don’t meet that special someone, you will meet many good people, and make friends that will last a lifetime.

3. You will grow so much in that strange period between the ages of 17 and 25 or 26, and the gaining of a good, solid, strong education will only enhance that period and certainly the rest of your life.

4. As a female, if you choose to have a career, I believe having a Doctorate in your field gives you more options, and will allow you to obtain a good paying job that will let you have more control over your schedule and the environment in which you work. In other words, you won’t have to take jobs that would be distasteful to you, or that would compromise the principles by which you live.


There are numerous benefits to obtaining a Doctoral degree while you are young and unmarried. Besides the fact that you will meet new people who are smart, serious, innovative, and forward-thinking and you will be able to make lifelong connections, you may also get the opportunity to help change the world in some significant way. Keep in mind that the journey to reach any goal or realize any dream will almost always be littered with bumps in the road, but if you keep at it, the destination will be sweet.

Here are three more suggestions to keep in mind when pursuing your Doctoral degree:

1. Learn to become both effective and efficient.

To be effective means you are successful in having a desired effect. To be efficient means you are working in a systematic, methodical way that is reflective of competence and organization. When you’re effective, you do the right things; when you’re efficient, you do the right things the right way. Both are needed in Doctoral studies and throughout life. Prioritize your assignments and work on one thing at a time until you get it done. If you do this, multi-tasking is not necessary. Being efficient without being effective is mere busyness. And busyness does not always mean productivity.

2. Sometimes, implement Parkinson’s Law.

Parkinson’s law states that “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion”. Isn’t it strange how if we really need to complete a task to meet a deadline, we are able to do so no matter how much time we actually have? It is important to set goals and avoid procrastination. But if you have a deadline of 12 noon on Friday and you can complete that writing assignment in 4 hours on Monday instead of 4 days until Friday, by all means try to complete it on Monday. If you decide beforehand that you can do it all in 4 hours on Monday, then you will do it in those 4 hours.

3. Get feedback when and wherever you can.

Getting feedback from other people will help make you a better person in almost every area. When asking for feedback, it is important to consider what kind of feedback you’re requesting, who you are requesting it from, and whether that person has adequate time to review your work and give a constructive critique. Give the people you request feedback from clear prompts on the assignment and what you intend to accomplish. Then, make sure the person is at least familiar with what you are doing and that they have the time to review your work. Finally, have an open mind listen to what they say. And remember what former Harvard Business School professor David Maister said: “If you’re going to ask for feedback, be ready to change.”

Maria Montessori said, “The greatness of the human personality begins at the hour of birth. From this almost mystic affirmation there comes what may seem a strange conclusion: that education must start from birth.”

In our next class, we will begin a new study, “THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN”.


Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.