Class 40: “The Marks of a Truly Educated Woman” (Part 1)

Today, we are beginning a new study titled, THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN.

Allow me to begin with a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt. She said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read the entire corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:

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Dear Daughters & YBW:

I have long been impressed with the Spelman woman. Please take notice with me a part of the mission statement of Spelman College:

“…Spelman promotes academic excellence in the liberal arts and develops the intellectual, ethical, and leadership potential of its students.” (Spelman College 2005-2006 Catalog)

When you think about the Spelman woman, you think of class, dignity, and leadership. What makes a Spelman woman appear that way? What are the marks of a truly educated black woman?

1. A truly educated woman has the utmost respect and love for God and for His Holy Word.

2. An educated woman carries herself with dignity, class, and grace.

3. An educated woman carries herself with a humble, quiet grace, yet her presence is powerful. She does not feel as though she needs to act masculine to exude authority and power.

4. An educated woman knows how to handle the natural aggressiveness of men with coolness, calmness, and without losing any respect from them.
5. An educated woman knows how to think on her feet, and how to speak clearly in any situation.

6. An educated woman understands the power of her eyes, and she knows how to control her eyes.

7. An educated woman knows how to express her thoughts through writing.

8. An educated woman knows how to think like a man when she needs to, and at the same time be all woman.

9. An educated woman knows her field very well. She is a professional.

10. An educated woman knows how to make both men and women feel at ease in her presence without losing respect.

11. An educated woman is disciplined and tough-minded.

12. An educated woman is discerning enough to say “no” to a man who doesn’t mean her any good.

Daughters and YBW, may I lovingly encourage you to be this kind of woman.

Yours for a Truly Educated Black Woman,

Papa

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Now we will go through three of these traits in greater detail:

1. A truly educated woman has the utmost respect and love for God and for His Holy Word.

A person cannot be considered well educated until she has a healthy fear of and respect for God and strives to apply the truth of Scripture to her life. Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge…” To stress its importance, the wisest man who ever lived, Solomon, repeats it again in Proverbs 9:10: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.”

When we deny God in the learning process, we reject a powerful dimension of wisdom and knowledge that cannot be gained in any other way. God, the Chancellor of the universe, demands respect for His wisdom in creating us and adoration for His infinite greatness and omnipotence. True education requires that you not just know about Scripture, but that you believe its words and implement its truths in your daily life. John 17:3 says, “And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.”

2. An educated woman carries herself with dignity, class, and grace.

When we come to ideas such as these, we tend to think of physical beauty or how a woman dresses, styles her hair, matches her shoes to her clothes, applies her make-up, or walks at the office or at church. That is all well and good, and special care should be taken for those areas of our lives. However, in this regard, we do not want to focus on the outward appearance only, but on how we dress our spirits, our hearts, our attitudes, and our minds. It is not enough just to look the part, we must also be the part. Being has nothing to do with looks, it has everything to do with who we choose to look like on the inside.

Dignity is the “quality of being worthy of respect”. In another sense, it is also the “respect one gives to one’s self”. Class is defined as “traits or characteristics that represent stylish excellence.” Grace is a “courteous, decent manner of behaving.” It can also be defined as how you respond under pressure and act in the midst of difficulty. Dignity, class, and grace are essential to living well in this world. You will find that in most cases, talk is cheap. It is how you act that matters.

3. An educated woman carries herself with a humble, quiet grace, yet her presence is powerful. She does not feel as though she needs to act masculine to exude authority and power.

In today’s world, we’ve misinterpreted femininity to refer to the external appearance of a woman. Achieving femininity is worth nothing if a woman is empty on the inside. Being feminine does not mean being a weak pushover who gives in to every idea and suggestion that comes her way. A woman of humility knows when to sit down and when to stand up. She knows she does not have to defend herself because God is her warrior. She knows when to be quiet and when to speak. She has faith that God will provide for her, guide her, and protect her. She is not jealous or envious of the success of other women, instead she supports them and encourages them. She takes advantage of positive opportunities, and if she sees no available opportunity in front of her, she does not whine and cry about it. Instead she gets up and creates an opportunity for herself.

She appreciates masculine men for being just that — masculine men. And she does not engage in secret berating and belittling of men and what they do because that is not her place or responsibility. She spends her time being productive and making a difference. She smiles and gives off a joyful reflection because it represents life, love, and openness. She realizes that she is entitled to nothing, and everything is a blessing from God. She is not trapped in her head or her soul by limiting beliefs — she is free mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to be the person God created her to be.

G.D. Boardman said, “Sow an act, and you reap a habit; sow a habit, and you reap a character; sow a character, and you reap a destiny.”

In our next class, we will continue our study, “THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN”.

—LET’S PRAY—

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Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.

First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”

Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.

God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.