Class 41: “The Marks of a Truly Educated Woman” (Part 2)
Today, we will continue our study titled, THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN.
Allow me to begin with a quote from Diane Ravitch. She said, “The person who knows `how’ will always have a job. The person who knows `why’ will always be his boss.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
4. An educated woman knows how to handle the natural aggressiveness of men with coolness, calmness, and without losing any respect from them.
5. An educated woman knows how to think on her feet, and how to speak clearly in any situation.
6. An educated woman understands the power of her eyes, and she knows how to control her eyes.
7. An educated woman knows how to express her thoughts through writing.
8. An educated woman knows how to think like a man when she needs to, and at the same time be all woman.
9. An educated woman knows her field very well. She is a professional.
10. An educated woman knows how to make both men and women feel at ease in her presence without losing respect.
11. An educated woman is disciplined and tough-minded.
12. An educated woman is discerning enough to say “no” to a man who doesn’t mean her any good.
Now we will go through the next three of these traits in greater detail:
1. An educated woman knows how to handle the natural aggressiveness of men with coolness, calmness, and without losing any respect from them.
God made men and women to be different from each other. He also made men and women to complement each other, not work against each other. Naturally, men are more aggressive than women, at least they are supposed to be. It is the responsibility of women not to give in to the aggressiveness of men, and instead, respect the God-given differences and carry themselves with class. Learn to maintain composure and be less reactive to provocations. Keep a healthy distance and know your value. If you respect yourself, you will gain respect from others. Respect is earned not by protesting and pushing for it, but by having a set of values and standards that you live by. Yes, men should respect women, but women should act in a manner that is worthy of respect.
2. An educated woman knows how to think on her feet, and how to speak clearly in any situation.
Whether you are put on the spot, giving a speech, making a presentation, or engaging in daily conversation, being able to articulate what you are thinking is a skill. Some people have it naturally, some people don’t, but everyone can learn it if they want to. When you are able to think on your feet, your responses will warrant confidence in those who are listening to you that you know what you are saying. The first thing that is important to being able to think on your feet and articulate your points clearly is to have something in your head. You don’t have to know everything, but if you have a basic understanding and knowledge of the world around you, you should be able to engage in sensible conversation about nearly any topic. Make sure you listen well, read and learn from others, ask questions, and practice clear delivery when you have to speak in front of an audience.
3. An educated woman understands the power of her eyes, and she knows how to control her eyes.
Psychologists have long heralded the power of our eyes to communicate messages of interest, mystery, attention, or curiosity. A 1989 study found that not only does eye contact communicate certain messages, but it also produces feelings such as happiness, anger, guilt, arousal, or alienation. Eyes communicate sincerity and dishonesty, confusion and confidence, and a host of other emotions. The study found also that eye contact is often what causes two people to fall in love with each other. How we choose to use our eyes can send either positive or negative signals to others. To avoid misinterpretation, it is important to control your eyes and pay attention to the messages you give off. Wandering eyes are often the sign of a wandering heart.
David O. McKay said, “True education does not consist merely in the acquiring of a few facts of science, history, literature, or art, but in the development of character.”
In our next class, we will continue our study, “THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN”.
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.