Class 42: “The Marks of a Truly Educated Woman” (Part 3)
Today, we will continue our study titled, THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN.
Allow me to begin with a quote from Michelle Obama. She said, “Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
7. An educated woman knows how to express her thoughts through writing.
8. An educated woman knows how to think like a man when she needs to, and at the same time be all woman.
9. An educated woman knows her field very well. She is a professional.
10. An educated woman knows how to make both men and women feel at ease in her presence without losing respect.
11. An educated woman is disciplined and tough-minded.
12. An educated woman is discerning enough to say “no” to a man who doesn’t mean her any good.
Now we will go through the next three of these traits in greater detail:
1. An educated woman knows how to express her thoughts through writing.
Educated people are able to fully express themselves with words. What you can talk about is limited; what you can write about is endless. What you write must make sense to those who read it. You can ensure that it is by following what I call the three C’s. First, your writing must be concise, meaning that you give all the information you want to give in as few words as possible. Second, your writing must be clear, meaning that it is simple and understandable. Third, your writing must be coherent, meaning that it is logical, rational, and consistently sound. Your words express who you are — your attitude, your personality, your beliefs. Take some time to write out your thoughts and share them with others. It is one of the keys to unlock a whole ‘nother world.
2. An educated woman knows how to think like a man when she needs to, and at the same time be all woman.
Thinking like a man does not mean acting like a man. To think like a man is to possess some of the traits that men, generally speaking, are known for. I say generally speaking because in this day and age, it can be hard to separate the men from the women. But suffice it to say that men have characteristics that are reflective of their nature. Here are some of them:
- Be confident. Not confident and arrogant, but confident and humble. A can-do level-headed person is cool under pressure and works hard without looking like it.
- Make decisions, take action, and stop worrying. Research at the University of Nevada in Reno shows that while women tend to fret and “hash out things” continuously, men focus on taking a position, making a decision, and accepting the consequences.
- Ask for what you want. Women are generally taught to be compliant, but you are doing nobody a favor if you want or need something but refuse to ask for it.
- Don’t grumble, hold grudges, or live in flashback mode. Don’t beat around the bush. If there’s a problem, say it. If you’re upset, tell what it is straight out. You do your own self a disservice when you expect people to read your mind.
- Set goals and be mentally competitive at least. By nature, men are more competitive (physically, mentally, intellectually). A challenge is like fuel. There is nothing wrong with accomplishment, reaching goals, getting things, or fighting your way to get there.
3. An educated woman knows her field very well. She is a professional.
The benefits of being professional are many. Sometimes it is difficult to be a professional every day and all day, but once you make professionalism a habit, you will find it easier. To be a professional, you must first think like a professional. Most everything starts in the mind. If you think you are a professional, you will eventually become one. Professionalism involves having a good attitude about work, facing challenges with coolness and calmness, being on time, following rules and paying attention to details, avoid gossip and office politics, showing respect, being resourceful, helping coworkers where you can, getting your job done, and delivering quality work on a consistent basis. When you develop a professional attitude to your work, your relationships, and your life, you will see more opportunities open up for you.
John Dewey said, “Education is not the preparation for life; education is life itself.”
In our next class, we will continue our study, “THE MARKS OF A TRULY EDUCATED WOMAN”.
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.