Class 54: “Take in a Little Etiquette Along the Way” (Part 2)
Welcome to Class 54 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter, who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling (executive leadership) and is now pursuing her second master’s degree in developmental psychology, and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will continue our study titled, TAKE IN A LITTLE ETIQUETTE ALONG THE WAY.
— Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote from Maurice Baring. He said, “Whoever one is, and wherever one is, one is always in the wrong if one is rude.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
Below are a few basic rules of etiquette:
1. Use words such as “Please,” “Thank you,” “No Sir,” “Yes Sir,” “No Ma’am,” “Yes Ma’am.” (By the way, you are not any less of a person when you use such terminology. All you are doing is showing respect for older people, and people in positions of authority.)
2. Say “Excuse me” when you need to pass by someone.
3. Say “Pardon me” or “Excuse me” when you need someone to repeat themselves.
4. As a female, when you are introduced to the opposite sex, if you do not wish to shake the gentleman’s hand, you do not have to extend your hand first.
5. Stand and walk upright.
6. Do not slouch when you sit down. Always sit up straight.
7. When you are in the wrong, always say “I apologize for so and so; would you please forgive me?” Or, “I am sorry; would you please forgive me?” (These small things go a long way in life.)
Etiquette is very simply behaving yourself a little better than expected but not so perfectly that you cease to be human. While some will debate whether any type of manners is still needed, I think we can all agree that when we display good manners, we add a little heaven to earth. Here are some considerations from the Power of Positivity:
1. Timing is very important. Always keep to time when honoring a meeting, date, event, etc. When you show up late, it says so much about your personality and the kind of regard you show to important things.
2. Always take note of what you pick out of the refrigerator at the office; if you haven’t kept some food or drink in there you have no business taking anything out. Leftovers should also be thrown away rather than getting the refrigerator stocked with junk.
3. Watch your manners when you make use of the cell phone. Being loud on the phone is a lot of disturbance to those around you. You are more likely to cause some distractions or disrupt other people’s concentration.
4. If you RSVP for an event, you must show up. If probably you won’t be able to honor such an event anymore, you must have communicated that early enough or else you will be causing a lot of imbalance for the celebrant.
5. Your diet plans are for you; don’t bother other people with what you have to do or eat. If you prepare food for a lot of people you should be considerate enough to note that your diet isn’t the same as well as others.
Someone said, “What does anxiety do? It does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but it empties today of its strength. It does not make you escape the evil; it makes you unfit to cope with it if it comes.”
In our next class, we will continue our study, “TAKE IN A LITTLE ETIQUETTE ALONG THE WAY”.
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.