Class 63: Women Folk! (Part 2)
Welcome to Class 63 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young men.
I am Daniel Whyte III, chairman of the National Association to Save Young Black Men in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men”. We are using that book as the text and its study guide to guide you through the course. The study guide was developed with the help of Jamie McCallum (M.Div, Truett Theological Seminary) and Charles Garrett (M.Div, Southwestern Theological Seminary). This course is for all young men, but especially for young black men and young men of color who oftentimes have a “difficult journey” in this great country called America. I call this class “the Ramp” to the Highway of Success because my goal is to get you on “the Ramp”. As a man, you ought to be able to make it from there. Out of respect for you as a young man, my job is to get you on the ramp and point you in the right direction, not to tell you all the details once you get onto the highway of success. With God, you can do great things.
— Let’s Pray —
Today, we are continuing our study titled, “Women Folk!”
As we begin this lesson, consider these words from Charles Spurgeon: “God save us from wives who are angels in the street, saints in the church, and devils at home.”
Let’s begin by reading the portion from Letters to Young Black Men which our lesson is based on:
3. Everything that glitters ain’t gold. It is a tragedy, but true, that most pretty and fine women are not good for you. You had better learn and learn quickly to get past the exterior and find out about the interior. Beautiful women are a dime-a-dozen, seriously. God made them beautiful and voluptuous. But what you want, son, and what you had better get in a woman is a woman of virtue, integrity, trustworthiness and honor, if you want to have peace of mind in this life. Because if you fool around and get yourself a woman who is beautiful on the outside, yet on the inside she is full of lies, cheating, rebellion, stubbornness, disrespect, manipulation, etc., etc., you will have hell to pay! Mark my words. Notice what Solomon says on this subject from the Book of Proverbs in the Holy Bible: “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.”
Now, please pull out your printed study guide or your digital study guide as we continue our review of these topics.
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The last chapter of the Bible’s book of wisdom is prefaced by a mother giving her son, King Lemuel, some advice for life. The largest portion of that chapter describes the “virtuous woman.” The writer asks, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” Young man, instead of looking for a beautiful woman to spend your life with, you ought to be looking for a virtuous woman. When you get a chance, take some time to read Proverbs 31:10-31. You will find that the woman you should pursue ought to have the following qualities:
1. She should be trustworthy. She should tell you the truth, and she should be worthy of your trust. You should feel confident enough to confide in her. If you can’t trust each other, your relationship isn’t worth anything.
2. She should be industrious. Whether your wife is employed outside of the home or not, she should be productive and willing to work hard for her family and for the Lord.
3. She should gladly take care of the household. She should be willing to make your house a home. She should be game for whatever that involves — getting furniture, cooking, cleaning, entertaining guests, etc.
4. She should feed and clothe her children and any under her care.
5. She should have a heart of love and care for those who are needy. Young women are often told that they are in trouble if their boyfriend is nice to them but mean to everyone else. Well, the same goes for women. Don’t get involved with a woman who says she loves you but shows no compassion for anybody else.
6. She should be educated and savvy. She should be knowledgeable about the world and her place in it. Marry a smart woman and you’ll never be short of things to talk about. Beauty and brains are a great combination, but if you have to choose, pick brains.
7. She should know her worth and value herself. You want a woman who has high personal standards. You don’t want a woman who believes her relationship with a man is what brings her value. It may sound strange when you hear it for the first time, but you want a woman who can do with or without you. She shouldn’t NEED you, and you shouldn’t NEED her. If you get involved with a needy woman, she will detract from you and from your relationship. You want a woman who brings a full package to the table.
If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, we will continue this lesson in our next class.
In closing, Tony Dungy, the first black coach to win the Super Bowl and the host of NBC’s Sunday Night Football said, “You are never going to get anywhere in sports or in life until you become convinced of the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ. You may become a professional athlete or have fame and nice cars and nice houses and a lot of money, but what you’ll find is that all of that stuff goes away pretty quickly. You have to understand that Christ died for our sins, and that He died not just to be our Savior but so that He could be the center of our lives.”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what the church people I grew up around said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, I’ll see you for our next class.